parenting teens 101

A not for profit network of self-help websites.

Welcome! I hope I can help you find what you're looking for! Anytime you see an underlined word in a different color you're being offered an opportunity to learn more than what you came here for. It's important to understand the true meanings of your emotions and feelings as well as many other topics that are within this network. This entire network is set up to help those who want to help themselves find a sense of peace in their lives - discover who resides within and recover from whatever life has dealt you. Clicking on the underlined link words will open a new window so whatever page you began on will remain waiting for you to get back to it!

If you can't find what you're looking for here, scroll down to see an entire menu of what is offered within the emotional feelings network of sites!

kathleen

Presently I have two teen girls - Jodi & Rachel

Welcome Parents....

Once you become a parent... at that very first moment of conception... (yes that's when it all begins!) your life will never be the same again.

Perhaps you believe you are already a great parent, having simply survived the first 12 years of your child's life.

Perhaps you think that you're going to enjoy parenting your darlings through the teenage years... well think again about that.

I have some adult children as well - Zac & Mel!

And when your children pass that magic age of 18 years old... magic because it was at 18 years old they swore they were moving out and you'd never see them again! - you smile and wonder where all the time went?

They begin living adult lives and you think to yourself, "Oh God!!! I've made so many mistakes! How did this child grow up to be such a dysfunctional young adult?"

Oldest daughter, Michelle now 30 & Preston - 16

Then you look into their eyes and their smiles and you see yourself - at whatever age they are and you sigh...

and you remember back to who you were at that age....

and you may cry, cheer or simply chuckle ....

And you realize that each one of them is the most beautiful individual you will ever know.

visit the new site: nurture 101!!!!

There's a new site in the network! I am almost finished completing each page, but I can't wait anymore to tell you all about it! Please pay it a visit soon! It's an important topic!

nuture 101

read my personal blog about living with emotional feelings!

http://livingwithemotionalfeelings.blogspot.com/

Don't Allow Your Teenager To Become Smarter Than You Are...

(Technology sucks...)

School Will Never Be Like It Was When We Went To School

(Get rid of all of your expectations now...)

"i've just gotta say it!"

August 2009

kathleen howe

I'm back to work here and all over the network as well as www.selfgrowth.com - newsvine.com - my new blog at
living with emotional feelings, intuit.com, and I'm beginning to write for another online publication called the examiner.com. It's all in a days work! Typing my fingers to the bone has been most of my days recently, but I'm working on some other things as well, most directly - my own self. I suddenly realized that I was too focused on one thing - my mental health.

Last month I began changing my thought processes a bit to examine what goals I need to consider making so I can prioritize them and make plans to accomplish each one. I have let myself go, "physically" and that's not good. While my mental health continues to be a struggle, I was under the impression that I would be able to get it under control and be able to go on with the next thing. Mental health issues aren't quite that simple to beat or so I'm finding out anyway, especially being diagnosed with post traumatic stress disorder.

I went to a sleep clinic and found that I was waking up between 35-40 times per hour each night. I have sleep apnea which has continually gotten worse with weight gain. My oxygen saturation is also sinking down to 50% at times while I'm sleeping which is also very bad. So I am getting a CPAP machine. I'll be writing my story about my sleep problems and how I'm trying to alleviate them within the next six months over at anxieties 101 on the sleep page.

I have also gained a huge amount of weight because of my leg. If you haven't read about my accident I had six years ago, I have had a very weak leg that swells constantly around my ankle, gives me too much pain and I can't walk but for a few yards and I have to sit down. I just can't exercise the way I have always exercise in the past.

So I am considering taking on swimming. I'm so excited about it. I have found that the only thing I can do about my leg is to lose weight and have cortisone shots into my ankle. Perhaps after losing some weight and strengthening my legs with a non weight bearing exercise I'll have less pain at the end of each day.

I'm also going to rent some yoga cd's and see if I can find one I like - then I'll buy it. I need to devote some time to relaxation, meditation and yoga. I'm excited that I've made the decision to actually incorporate these very important activities into my daily regime.

There's a website I'm very excited about and it's outside my network, it's www.innerbonding.com. I suggest that everyone visit the website and register to read some of the free articles Margaret has on her site. I'm registered, and I've added her to my facebook, but I'm going to purchase some of her materials and start working on inner bonding. I've found that this is the most important step for me to take in finding out how to love myself.

I have some issues within my family that I need to concentrate on as well. I will be taking some important time off of working and writing to see if I can interupt the dysfunction that's currently making many people within my family miserable. I have made plans to take a few trips on my own without the rest of the family so I can spend some quality time with a few of my adult children. I'm hoping that things go well with them. My first trip is in September and it's to New York City! I'm very excited about it.

Here at the emotional feelings network of sites I've been trying to get all the sites looking the same and finished. I've changed the homepages of each site or added a "network guide" which you will find directly after the homepage in the navigational panel on the left hand side of the page. Tripod is changing their site building program to a new one so each site will have to be transferred over to this new web tool. This month will be busy for me transferring over 30 websites to the new tool. It will be interesting so wish me luck. If you see strange looks or changes to the format or background you'll know why.

As soon as I get all the sites transferred over I'll be finishing up the current sites listed on the homepages and then tweaking them all so that each page will contain up to date information unless of course, the information seems to be timeless as some surely is. So as you can see, I've been formulating a plan to get these sites in tip top shape so they take less time to maintain.

I haven't had an income for seven years so that is one of my priorities. While I'll never make the emotional feelings network of sites a profitable venture - I am working on a project that will make money on the Internet so I need to keep my time frame flexible with working on the basics of setting up a new business. This is why I am branching out and writing some articles on other network sites so that I can meet some people who I may be able to do business with in the future.

Perhaps I'll be sharing some good fish stories with you all as I'm going to be doing some night fishing this month with my husband. August always seems to have the most meteor showers and the weather will be nice still before fall comes. I've missed night fishing with him. Part of my personal growth and recovery journey will now revolve around working on my relationships and my marriage is one that could use a small amount of extra work - so I pick fishing in August! Watch out you big channel cats, I'll be catching you with my mean ol' "Ugly Stick" soon!

As for all of you, I thank you for continuing to visit the emotional feelings network of sites. I've begun to pay for a few of the sites so that I could increase the amount of information on those sites as well as monitoring the visitors who come to the site. This information that's available to me shows me what you all are searching for when you come to the sites. So after I collect that information, I will research whatever it is you've been looking for and add the info to the appropriate pages so the next time you come looking the info will be there.

I'm thankful to get that information because it helps to guide me towards information that you all are looking for thus keeping me current and interesting! There's more to come that I'll tell you about in September, so keep visiting and send me an email now and then to say hello! It's those emails that keep me going!

Do you remember listening to this song on the radio?

Teens and their music!

Sexual Healing

(Marvin Gaye/David Ritz/Odell Brown)

Ooh, now let's get down tonight

Baby I'm hot just like an oven

I need some lovin'

And baby, I can't hold it much longer

It's getting stronger and stronger

And when I get that feeling

I want Sexual Healing

Sexual Healing, oh baby

Makes me feel so fine

Helps to relieve my mind

Sexual Healing baby, is good for me

Sexual Healing is something that's good for me

Whenever blue tear drops are falling

And my emotional stability is leaving me

There is something I can do

I can get on the telephone and call you up baby, and

Honey I know you'll be there to relieve me

The love you give to me will free me

If you don't know the things you're dealing

I can tell you, darling, that it's Sexual Healing

Get up, Get up, Get up, Get up, let's make love tonight

Wake up, Wake up, Wake up, Wake up, 'cos you do it right

Baby I got sick this morning

A sea was storming inside of me

Baby I think I'm capsizing

The waves are rising and rising

And when I get that feeling

I want Sexual Healing

Sexual Healing is good for me

Makes me feel so fine, it's such a rush

Helps to relieve the mind, and it's good for us

Sexual Healing, baby, is good for me

Sexual Healing is something that's good for me

And it's good for me and it's good to me

My baby ohhh

Come take control, just grab a hold

Of my body and mind soon we'll be making it

Honey, oh we're feeling fine

You're my medicine open up and let me in

Darling, you're so great

I can't wait for you to operate

When I get this feeling, I need Sexual Healing [Ad lib]

It's been making a comeback as so many things do throughout the generations. There's even a ringtone for your cell with this song! It's actually time to revisit the 60's and 70's right now... I love it!

Now you're the parent and you're responsible for the education of your child, from birth, throughout early childhood and now the teenage years for their sexual education. Not only are you responsible for the "text book education" we all seemed to receive as teens - you're responsible for the education of their "sexual feelings."

Being a parent today means recognizing that we all have emotions and feelings. While it is still a "hormonal thing," as we all used to say when we didn't recognize the fact that we all owned emotions and feelings - we must take a moment to stop thinking how we were raised and to educate ourselves because things are different now for parents. The truth exists and it's very easy to find.

Yes, it's true. Emotions and feelings are neither good or bad - they just are. No one can tell us how to feel and/or how we "should" feel. Each emotion and feeling that we feel inside of our own selves is our own. You can't have my emotions because they're all mine! I'll share them with you if you acknowledge the truth, but until that time - I'm not communicating with you.

Yeppers! That's how it is.

Feeling a bit apprehensive?

Thinking about putting your fingers in your ears?

Click on the picture and visit the apprehensive page at emotional feelings. Like I just mentioned, your world is never going to be the same again. It's time to get healthy about everything. Hang on!

If you start learning at the time of conception, by the time your children are teenagers you might be ready to face the music... that's right, even Marvin Gaye! But if you're just beginning to catch on as you read this ... well... I feel for you, but cheer up! Who needs sleep? Your teenager does! and you can learn about that here too! But you're going to have to educate yourself before educating your teenager. It won't work for you any other way. So go with the flow and re-establish a regular reading time for yourself and husband or better half. It's time for some hard work!

Sexual Feelings?

Be sure to click here to open a window at "the layer down under," another site within the emotional feelings network of 28+ sites! The article is very insightful and is helpful for new parents as well as parents with teenagers! It's at the bottom of the page once you click on the above link - scroll down to the bottom of the left hand column!

Talking With Kids Openly & Honestly About Sexuality By Michael McGee, C.S.T., Vice President of Education & Social Marketing, Planned Parenthood Federation of America

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